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Calling in a Soul Mate (and Why Clarity Matters)
- Jan 18
- 3 min read
Someone left me a note with an order recently saying she’s calling in her soul mate.
It made me smile.
And then it made me think.
Because soul mate is one of those phrases we use with a lot of hope… and not always a lot of specificity.
And the Universe?
Very responsive.
Not great at guessing.
So let’s talk about it.
What We Usually Mean When We Say “Soul Mate”
For a lot of us, soul mate has become shorthand for romantic life partner.
The person.
The one.
The great love story.
And sometimes?
That’s exactly what we’re calling in.
But not always.
Because a soul mate isn’t necessarily the person who completes your entire life.
It’s someone who meets you in a particular way.
And since we’re complex humans (with layers, seasons, and plot twists), we don’t usually have just one of those.
Soul Mates Come in More Than One Form
A soul mate might be:
a best friend who gets you without explanation
a collaborator who speaks your language
a teacher who changes your direction
a person who makes sense in your life right now
You can have a long, loving marriage and still encounter other soul mates along the way.
That doesn’t diminish your relationship.
It just acknowledges that love — real love — has more than one shape.
Why the Word “Soul Mate” Can Be… a Little Vague
Here’s the thing.
When we say:
“I want to call in my soul mate,”
What we might actually mean is:
I want a romantic partner who shows up
I want love that’s mutual and steady
I want emotional availability
I want partnership that works in real life, not just on paper
Those are very different requests.
And the Universe will respond to exactly what we ask for — even if the wording is broad.
Which is why someone can set an intention for a soul mate…and end up with:
a best friend
a business opportunity
a mentor
or a very illuminating personal growth phase
Not wrong outcomes.
Just thorough ones.
Clarity Isn’t Being Bossy — It’s Being Honest
Getting specific doesn’t make you demanding.
It makes you clear.
Instead of outsourcing meaning to a single phrase, you’re naming what would actually nourish you.
So instead of:
“I want my soul mate,”
You might try:
“I want a romantic partner who shows up consistently.”
“I want love that feels mutual and steady.”
“I want a relationship that feels good in real life.”
Still magical.
Just clearer.
A Friendly Valentine’s Day Heads-Up
Valentine’s Day has a way of amplifying feelings — even when we don’t want it to.
So consider this a gentle nudge to get clear before the day arrives with its opinions.
Not to rush anything.
Not to force an outcome.
Just to know what you’re actually inviting in.
Future you will appreciate the clarity. 💗
One Last Thought
Love shows up in many forms.
Friendship.
Partnership.
Collaboration.
Romance.
Sometimes all at once.
You don’t need fewer desires.
You just need better language for them.
And that?
That’s a kind of magic that works year-round.
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